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May 23, 2019

Why Men Can Get Emotional About Sports, But Find it Harder to Access Their Emotions at Home or at Work


Gary Bloom
Gary Bloom is a clinical psychotherapist working at Cognacity’s Harley Street practice. He works one to one with people who are suffering from depression, anxiety, addictive...


Gary Bloom presenting at iCAAD London 2019.

Remember the summer of 2018?

England reached the semi-finals of the FIFA world cup and suddenly the nation was transfixed with the exploits of Gareth Southgate’s team. In front of huge TV screens, strangers hugged each other from the bars of Liverpool and Leeds to the beaches of Brighton and Bognor. But why can grown men cry at a national anthem or a rendition of ‘Swing Low’ at a rugby international but keep a stiff upper lip when emotional carnage is going on around them? Logical philosopher AJ Ayer, who had an irrational love of Tottenham Hotspur, described his love of belonging to a football tribe. Why do men find it hard to be vulnerable with their partners, loved ones and work colleagues, and why is suicide the biggest killer of men in the UK aged 25-50? In this presentation sports broadcaster and clinical psychotherapist Gary Bloom looks at the nature of the male psyche, and how some men fear feminisation if they don’t act in a macho fashion. Looking at the examples of sport Gary will explore the role of masculinity and male power in the 21st century and what we are teaching our children when we refuse to acknowledge our feelings. *Warning this presentation might contain strong emotions!*